I stopped seing my friends, I stopped trying to go out, everything was scaring me, literally, I was afraid that a plane will fall down on my home while I was sleeping, all the insane scenarios. (Not married) I still love him so much, but I think its the best choice for both of us. She is a no bullshit chick that has always been completely honest with me about everything and this is no exception. We had went there to plan for an engagement, but all she had for us was a rejection, simply because I don't own a house. My Girlfriends Depression Is Bringing Me Down. To pull something or someone from a higher to a lower position: She dragged down the boxes from the attic. Just stay focused on your ultimate goal with her and never lose site of how she was before depression. You are NOT responsible for the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors or others. If your partner dominates every aspect of your shared lives, you may be in a draining relationship. We had ups and downs for almost a year till i realised that she is alcoholic, and sadlly that the day we met (which i consider the most romantic day i had) she had bottle of wine hidden in her bag. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. Im sorry for all of us that love was not enough. She was not like this when we first met. Exactly. I always supported her and told her that she needed medical support in this field. I have become very weary, weak and helpless toward her, every piece of support I give her is taken with offence, as an insult of her character or some other negative quam brewed inside her hyperactive mind. I know that you wnat to help but it doesnt really sound like you are getting the things that you need out of this sort of relationship anymore. He is also seeing a psychiatrist who has advised he doesnt work I am doing 3 jobs to pay for my divorce as he is going to go bankrupt with his business =- because he couldnt face going in to work except at lunch time. I'm just not the same. If you need them. Sign up and Get Listed. were so messed up its insane. Totally agree with your comment. We started dating and since after 2 months shes been depressed. If you have solution, you are God for me:(, I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. Dude, Everything is about your partner. She blames herself for everything, and says incredibly negative and hurtful things about her self. Dear Armand, I had a 3 month relationship with a depressed woman and it was comparable to a roller coaster ride at Disney land ups and downs it was beyond this world everything was my fault problems was created and misery was the icing on the cake. I see her every weekend, during the week I keep to myself play video games, homework, go over to a friends for a beer. Your story is pretty much identical to mine. I hope you will take another one and find some support for yourself. I think this is the best for us at this time, as I read up in this thread I see a lot of pain caused to both people as time goes on and I dont want that to happen to either of us. But of course this isn't the case in an unhealthy relationship. Its a selfish decision either way. She has a comfortable home life but is in a constant state of conflict with her parents because of how she is treated.. Namely them trying to get her out on her own after graduating and trying to find a job. Youve shown your love for her and she knows that. When I feel she is back to her slump again I back off and do my own thing for awhile. She questioned our status, then says if we are a couple we should act like one (she is always busy and making plans with friends so I leave her be) which she doesnt like. does anyone have any pointers or ideas? And also you have to be a little tough, let her know that you understand and love (you can tell her that simply in words, she might not notice that your actions are supposed to tell it, it is also difference between sexes) her but dont be the hero here. Shes 30, Im 26, she never had a boyfriend, nor had sex or drugs nor anything. Its your natural born right to be happy! Also, if her depression has lasted for years with no improvement, it might be time to look at changing the treatment plan. Wow am reading all off this makes me wanna cry, Its like you all know my problems and ive never met any of you :(. Or are they falling back into a state where they feel they are most comfortable. Look man its getting to the point where youre gunna have to tell some form of authority, whether it be the police or something else either way, shes gunna bring you down if nothing changes and youll become just like her in a flash. my health is declining. She doesnt like it when I do my own thing or want to go out or have something in my life other than her. Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. Being long-distance, you are actually BETTER OFF than if you were local! But how is it possible? It is very sad when a very good man like me just happens to have very bad luck with women when i really shouldnt at all. She might even need help to physically move some of the bigger items out (like a couch). You're looking older but you can't be certain. Me being there, and supporting this whole time didnt count for anything. Than it all started to fade, she had weekly outbursts after we met, we had a lovely weekend, then, the other day, she was always very depressed or even aggressive, treating herself very badly, being jealous on my friends, depreciating herself. Sometimes through the foggy clouds of depression its hard to see if a person really likes you, but dont worry too much. I hear your talking and whispers, pale drawn out nails and fingers. Be willing to provide physical assistance. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. She wont go to counselling nor will she take medication, she hurts herself knowing that it hurts me because it means iv failed once again to make her happy. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. After everything I did, I have been there every single day, sharing my life with her, and pushing her away from this disease. Then to know she will react & get angry is so wrong. If so, then high blood pressure may not be far behind. "More importantly, there is balance in the relationship. Medication treats symptoms, but it doesnt address all of the problems that often underlie depression. There are so many ways a relationship can be unhealthy, and therefore so many ways it can drag you down. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. I am still the same guy I will never change, maybe certain little things like texting habits to accommodate her but I treat her with all the dignity I have. She used to threaten me and say i am depressed & mad. Thats not me! Im so hurt lately, and she doesnt give it a mind, and she doesnt barely talk to me on the late days. deep thoughts in my head And they just keep dragging me down there down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so. The fact that shes still hanging around him enforces that theyve cheated. She is loyal and would care for me no matter what but I cant keep bringing my own life down too to be on her level. I have honoured her decision to sort this out alone. She says its her medication but shes been on it since the age of 15 and shes 45 now, Im 42 I knew I had a little depression here and there and a bit of self destructive I dont want to go to work kinda lazy crap going on. You mention that your girlfriends medication does not seem to be helping her. Your girl might decide differently. Things we fine for few months then i noticed our sex life taking the down hill road. Youve managed to take care of your girlfriend and remain connected enough to yourself to come up with these questions. She probably wants you to make a call. I was acting like it all was my boyfriends fault, and I sometimes felt like this. I started to seek too much attention, because it felt finally a lille bit good to have this attention. So I tried communicating a little more and making plans. Buy she apparently can go on a day out with her ex to hang out behind her parents back.s he cant even do that for me?? she is unable to talk to you to achieve closeness because of all she had to deal with in her head so she compensate this lack of connection by wanting more sex (sex is expression of the highest level of acceptance and intimacy with other person after all and you dont have to talk during this action) and when you refuse, because of the depressed state and has low self-esteem that accompanies it, she treats it like rejection. all of our arguments come from her depression and her being in a bad mood, i can only sometimes cheer her up. Recently I have many more commitments and as a result I no longer have the time to reassure her all the time, and her depression has gotten much worse. I know she deals with her own issues and Ive known for quite some time, but I see it more often now. And also I realised that people dont like sad people. of each person. When I asked her if she wanted to go get some food, ice cream the mall,she said no for so many reasons. Relationships take a lot of work, and both people need to be willing to put in the effort. Posted October 5, 2013 | Reviewed by Ekua Hagan Question: Hi Irene, My BFF and I have been friends since high school. I get it, youre both on the brink every second that goes by and it feels like thats all there is and ever will be. I cant stay wit her anymore. I feel like a slave. There is more to life than this, trust me. I dont want to leave her, as a friend she needs me more than anything, but I need to figure out a way to help us both (I know Im not going to fix her issues, but just being around saying the same thing over and over again like I love you or everything going to be okai doesnt seem like its doing anything at all. You may also try this, what my boyfriend did: he said he is leaving me cause it is too hard for him, he left me for two painful days, then he told me that he will be back, but in some time. I envy all your girlfriends, because you acknoleged their pain.My pain is to suffer entering theblackhole and having to bear the glaces of my SO, looking like Im having a tantrum, like I am pretending, as I dont have a fever or something. Here are some ways this may happen. It hurt me deeply and I dont know what to do. I am afraid that if I leave she will kill herself, she is completely obsessed with me and I cant escape. I don't have the same motivation and drive and care about myself like I did when I was single. I would answer, I just want to feel free and safe. I feel trapped. Warm regards, "When youre stressed, your heart starts pumping blood faster through your veins to give you energy to deal with that perceived threat," said Marcelina Hardy on BettyConfidential.com. I asked a lot of questions to learn what the problem is, all she says that everything collapses to her. I really wish GoodTherapy.org would have some people, professionals or people who had past experiences in line with all the above comments and have them offer some advice and hope for everyone here. Developing a strong therapeutic relationship with a clinician will afford you a much-needed opportunity to focus on yourself. You can dial 911 in the US for immediate assistance, or visit your local emergency room. Im different then most I let her know I care everyday and all day but at same time I have tons of hobbies that detract from everything. Relationships are supposed to build you up, be super supportive, and make you a better person. I do not see a future with her but I get so torn up at the thought of leaving her to her depression and her situation, Im in the exact same situation as you gaz. He started changing we had an argument one time and he cut all way from his wrist to his elbow, I couldnt leave him I had to ditch my mam to see if he was okay before he went to work. I didt wanted help, I didnt wanted to tell people how sad I am (and that I dont know why) to anyone. Do you guys fight all the time? Day in or out, shell leave me broken again, I know it, just dont know when. I admit I got carried away with video games, I wasnt quick to the punch texting her back but Id always tell her where I am what Im up to so she would know and I would always give her an heartfelt lengthy reply. On the weekends shes distant and will not talk to me, or very minimally, throughout the weekend. Wow.. so many people with so many similar issues and I thought I was the only one! She talks about it so much now that I dont even get shocked anymore. yesterday she said dating isnt working for either of us, the things that we need to change are things that cant chnange. In your head, you know it's no big deal. And that is the hard and painful task to face the truth, because depression is, for me at least running away form truth, avoiding to face it. I also have depression. The problem is somewhere else and only specialist can find it. Every time we go out she freaks out. (You're so tired) But you just can't sleep. we took a break for a day, then got back together. It would be way worse, and if you leave, then the relationship wouldnt be as big of a crutch and she and you can move on and grow. I feel for all of you guys! Long distance, depressed girlfriend, university, feeling trapped, spending too much time and sacrificing too many things for the happiness of the other person in the relationship. Cmon guys you know the drill. The specific mention of medication but not therapy makes me wonder whether your girlfriend is in therapy. Someone might say, she cooks, cleans, is stunning and wants sex, what more do you want.. If so, it could be that your relationship is wearing you out. You deserve to be happy as well. It just makes me feel worse, plus medication takes 63-64 days to actually kick in. I am going through the same. So if your partner isn't pulling his or her weight, you may find yourself feeling like giving up. So that he loves himself. My partner has depression and anxiety and this year everything on his side of life started crumbling; family, job, friends, self-esteem, personal projects. Should I leave her be and wait for her to consult me? Start praying to God, together with your girlfriend. Its a positive sign that you seem to have a solid sense not only of where she is, but also where you are. This is important: I have to tell you you will not find the cure, you can be there and support but please stop believing that it will make the problem go away. I did anything to help her, yet there seems to be no progress. (All is Hell) Recently, she insulted both my mother and I in her home. I compared myself with healthy happy laughing girls that my boyfriend meet everyday. How wrong! I hate her anxiety. Even she could not continue her studies and quit her studies.Its all because of she loves me to core and missing me much! DUMP THE SAD GIRL OTHERWISE SHE WILL DRAG YOU DOWN. Its been 8 months and Im already afraid of how she might self destruct if I tried to end the relationship. Well, Ive dating this girl for the last half-year, after two years of deep depression, isolation, drugs & alcohol abuse and poverty. Anyway, now we are almosr 3 yrs together and from the start of this year she finally admited being alcoholic and she started treatment process, with medications and therapy. As time went on our texts started to get more and more one sided as i would ask about her day and i would help her with any problems she had, but she would always start complaining about her problems and never actually talking about mine. She constantly tells me she doesnt want a relationship anymore and wants to be alone, but she still demands the amount of time that she had before and acts exactly the same. As long as your eyes are open. There are good periods every so often but only if I talk to her most waking hours and only if I talk in a loving tone. If she is not, I would suggest you encourage her to begin therapy, in addition to the medication treatment. Once you are gone, she will find another enabler to take on her issues. Shes 30 but she isnt mature enough to have any responsibility, I pity for it. Youve asked some really important questions about yourself: Am I codependent? Whats my issue? What steps can or should I take? These questions are as important as they are complicated. Reading all these comments makes me very sad and confused. Shawna Potter) Jim Ward. Sam is just absolute right, Ive been with the same girlfriend for 8 years, helping her to cope with her anxiety and depression, which are not mild, in return I became a cranky, fearful and highly depressed individual, as soon as she moved in with me the symptoms became severe and everything was somehow my fault, even though we always lived under my expense (before at my parents, now at a house that i pay for literally everything) shes not willing to work or do anything, she always finds an excuse why something wont work out (she has a doctors degree, and she can do a lot of things with that particular degree she simply refuses to always citing some excuse about how its never going to work). I feel for you all. We started dating a few months after the divorce and (I admit we could have been more responsible of our actions) she is now pregnant with our first child. I can know no one would have got solution. She was sweet, sensitive and caring. I tried hard to keep the relationship going, but I was alone in that battle. Do a "deep search" instead. I feel im depressed, asking myself was actually our sexlife good becuase she was drinking, and that the person im with now has no interest in sex at all? It truly could be your relationship that's to blame. She didnt even try to make the effort in keeping the conversation going and Im always the one who care about her when she doesnt give a thought about me and keep immersing herself in her depressive world. I am seeking some advice. I started to feel distant from her and that i dont want to be intimat to her. Copyright 2007 - 2023 GoodTherapy, LLC. THAT IS PROVEN IN PSYCHOLOGY. Help is available, and we wish you the best of luck in your search. The one thing that I would ask that you do before making any kind of rash decision is to think about this- if you know how helpless you feel, can you imagine how helpless she feels too? Karen S., a business executive in her late 20s, had been with her boyfriend eight months when she fell into a funk. And thats happiness isnt even happiness half the time, its just a less bad mood. In order for her to have a chance at any kind of substantive change and lasting relief, she needs to be working on these issues in therapy. So are yours always casting concerned looks? Welcome to Tissue Issues, an advice column from comedian Ash . I wish you answers. But I believe in him and that thought is put away. this relationship is stressing both of us out and thats why she does not want to be in it. I am sometimes even tempted to leave her because she is holding me down (work/school). (All is Hell) "Relationships characterized by constant conflict, fighting, and lack of forgiveness are a recipe for disaster," Opperman says. But this might not work or end tragically also. Like you rejecting the last possible form of understanding and connection. Smoking and drinking! I feel like iv become more of a tool for relief then her boyfriend, i feel as if she doesnt actually care for me but all she wants is me to make her happy. Wow. I am very caring, soft spoken and outspoken. Next time you feel like this world is messed, go outside and try something new. Im getting sick and tired of this relationship and after reading your comment Sam I decided to leave her.. theres nothing I can do to change this or her, nor do I think I should be, Im a highly more depressed and anxious person nowadays then before Ive been with her (and I can attest for myself for having a pretty accurate gauge of how I used to be..) I only have time to look at primary materials and not much more, and sometimes I wait until she has gone to sleep so I can read in peace. Seems like a pattern, a thing to analyse better. Very often, when one takes on the role of caretaker, it becomes such a consuming task that the caretaker loses touch with himself/herself. Any thoughts or suggestions would be sincerely appreciated. How do I approach the situation without hurting her feelings/making her feel bad? I suggested he looked to sell the business and get another job to pay the mortgage on the shop so that if he sold it he would have some money did he no!! I am now self harming and am depressed myself and still having to work 3 jobs I am now going to see a Councillor I can ill afford and I have no one to say dont go to work I will look after you. So the question, as you insightfully pose, is where do you go from here? First, if you are ever in crisis or are in danger of hurting yourself or someone else, it is very important you seek help immediately. If things aren't going well, if there's a lack trust, or if you don't feel secure, then it makes sense that anxiety might become an issue. All rights reserved. The text is most likely a part of an image, then. She talks like Im the only good thing in her life and I believe she truly feels that way. My gf & I have been dating for only five months. I still dont know what to do and I feel terrible. This is verbatim my situation. And probably you wonder why I use past tense when I write. So it can really, truly suck when you realize your relationship is dragging you down. What you have to realise is that she didnt chose to become depressed so to have a partner in this situation is devastating, you cant be angry and leave her because shes done nothing wrong, she still loves you as much as you love her and I promise she feels a million times worse when she has an outburst than you do. And thats when shit will get unbearable for the two of you. And he just feels like a failure and a burden onto everyone else to the point he has almost committed suicide twice. Move on with your life. Now I am devastated, saddened and hurt by the fact my beautiful girlfriend (now ex) is so unwell and theres nothing that I can really do, except offer my support and love. She did take medications she did try psychiatrist. You have two choices. And it can be anything, anything for the wide spectre of psychological problems or disorders. Try thinking back to those in hard times (or look at the older texts again like you do, I do that too haha). In her weekly column, JOAN LONG, a Bishopstown psychologist and psychotherapist, answers readers' queries. thanks for everyone comments! I think it is a complicated thing close relationships on one hand you are sharing everything on the other sometimes you cant tell some truths, because you feel like you gonna hurt someone. I dont see it getting any better. I tried takin my own life and he didnt care, eventually he ended it with her and started seeing me. She didnt want to go to my graduation. After a year of being together i started to talk about how bad our sexlife and that it has changed, her reply was always that im comparing this to things i read on the internet and that what we had before is considered honeymoon period. The envier. And do not try to help, just try to understand. Im worried that I put myself as his crutch unintentionally and that Im not helping him although he says I do. I just cant take the angry outbursts then the crying then the woe is me attitude over every tiny event. And if an argument crops up, it almost always goes smoothly (i.e., no screaming, or blaming, or anything horrible like that). My partner's negativity gets me down A happy, optimistic man is brought down by the relentless negativity of his partner. Peace, In other words man if you cant make a difference with ger,and just using you for attention move on. But i just seem lost and i need answers, idk if i was harsh and Im totally new at this so Im sorry if i was being harsh and all but plz help. All i see now is cold person who i love and so frustrated by the lack of intimacy. Seeing the change in her every day life and general well-being has been nothing short of a complete shock to me. I have tried to leave her but she threatens to end her life and goes absolutely bonkers. Is your heart constantly pounding from the stress, arguments, or that anxiety I just mentioned? THIS MORNING WITH ALL YOUR WEIGHT TIED TO MY NECK AND YOUR DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN I GOT . She had issues before with sex and that was part of why she drank. When asked I would avoid the answer because I really didnt know, and when forced, probably I would put the blame on someone else or act with aggression. I know what it feels like to be distant, but I have extra credit for you because you are near her but yet you still get the cold shoulder. You might also want to look for a caretakers support group. Your love will develop as you both learn (with help) how to manage your feelings and youll both be closer having supported one another through this difficult process. ago Welcome to r/dating_advice! Still, its all your decision. Life is can be cruel, tough and deceiving. Here are a few signs that the guy you're with is leaving you depressed. My Girlfriend's Depression Is Bringing Me Down. i dont know what to do. Long distance relationships where you rarely/never meet in person are not really the same thing. 10 Things That Happen If Your Relationship Is Draining Your Energy 1. Youve been shouldering a significant burden on your own for years; it sounds like you are ready to let someone help you carry the load. To lower the quality, character, or value of something or someone: His disruptions are dragging down the performance of the other students. (Yikes.). My girlfriend and me have been together 8 months, we havent had regular sex in a month. Its one thing to be committed to someone and another to keep trying only to see they themselves keep failing back into the same pattern. 11 months ago I started dating my girlfriend and everything was amazing. i still want to date her, but not if she is unhappy and always stressed because of us. Its killing me inside as she looks so helpless, vulnerable, alone and she has the face of one of the most beautiful girls you would ever meet. I agreed but this has left me with nothing to do, leaving my friends was a massive mistake! The sad thing is when these ppl start showing their age and dont have their sh$t together. She will text or call me out of blue and tell how much she appreciates my patience with her. If you think youre a piece of poop, youre going to think others think that way too. In the beginning of her depression I was able to make her feel better, but it was due to talking to her almost every waking hour in some form, and I would constantly have to reassure her that everything was alright. Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. Most of her adult life was spent trying to stabilize from bipolarity. My girlfriend has been depressed for 3 years. A healthy relationship will feel secure no matter what. I do everything I can to help her, but I feel like I'm just propping her up, and despite the medications she's taking she doesn't seem to ever improve. 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