\u00a9 2023 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. Wish. Dont make this conversation about being lazy versus being active. Readers responded emphatically that many couples struggle with this for a long time before one decides to cheat. When I started going to the gym, my girlfriend freaked out, saying that I am just doing this to get female attention. And I know deep down, she finds muscular men attractive. WebYour girlfriend doesn't want to get married probably because she doesn't believe in the idea of marriage. SURVIVORS original villain Jonny Fairplay says the show is just as grueling as it appears on-screen with producers unwilling to step in and help even in the direst of situations. Any healthy or aesthetic changes are just a bonus! She might be depressed. She is loyal and smart and we have similar beliefs. Maybe she's rushing marriage because she's horny and wants you, or maybe she's not very into sex at all and just wants marriage because she wants to do the whole kids and marriage thing that we women are pressured to do. Open communication is key to establishing a healthy relationship. Its safe to say there are probably a few that come to mind. Reassure her that you will never judge her if she initiates contact. You have to talk to her and be real. Hi, I am new to this kind of thing and would never normally think of posting my problems online, but I dont know what else I can do. Quite simply, you are incompatible. Changing your own behavior may trigger your spouse to want to make changes.. Spontaneity can be taught to certain extents. She was mad that we weren't having sex that often (we have sex twice a week) and she started going off on me that why the hell that I am watching porn. Now, you'll have to find the right forums to discuss this - there are others with your experiences who can advise you or let you know how their choices played out for them. Maybe we should ask: What does it mean for a person to have his or her sexual needs satisfied? Dealing With a Partner Who Doesn't Want Change. Yes. This is about two things: First, you not wanting to have a relationship where you both just lay on the couch all the time (also, for the record, your choice of the word feeding made me laugh very loudly); Second, you having a relationship where your significant other is straight-up just IGNORING your needs. Its all too easy to fall into a pattern of one-sidedness. If not kissing your partner is a deal breaker for you, you might consider ending the relationship. A list of national and international resources and hotlines to help connect you to needed health and medical services. 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